Something I have been thinking a lot about is creating intentional connections with Aspen and Journey on a daily basis. I love being a stay at home mom, but I'll be honest, I'd rather be doing things like errands, cleaning and making food than sitting and just playing with my kids. It sounds so awful, but it is hard for me to slow down and play. I get bored and feel like a babysitter. Aspen has been asking us lately, "why don't you want to play with me?" Wow, does that ever make me feel guilty!
So I have been working at making it a priority to sit and play, read books or slow down and just talk to Aspen every day. To look into his eyes and tell him how much I love him and how special he is to our family, and to hold him and give him hugs. I want to make intentional connections with him especially right now because Journey is still a baby and automatically gets a lot of my attention. They are so different already, but I want to make sure I treat and show them love in the same way.
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I know exactly how you feel, I feel the same way and I always felt bad about it and wondered if I was just weird, or selfish, or if there was something wrong with me. I love my kids, but being a stay at home mom is ALOT of work and I always feel like I should be doing something (because I have failed in house cleaning 101 a few times). I have felt like if I sit down and play, I am not being responsible. I also have never had the desire to sit and play make-believe and things like that, I just feel I don't have the time. Isn't that terrible? :) I love my kids and I know that all they want from me is my time and attention, and I DO do things with them, but I just feel like I can't find a good balance. But like you said, deciding to make an intentional connection and let one thing go for like 20-30 min is not a big deal (for me), but it IS a big deal for them and that's what really matters. -So, I guess I just wanted to say that I can totally relate to you, and also that reading what you said is encouraging to me, so thank you!
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